tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3839874353895292261.post8782019614225819679..comments2023-07-04T13:21:43.075+08:00Comments on a fleeting stay ... : Love and marriage in 1962 and 2010FAEZAH ISMAILhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10503794442682876972noreply@blogger.comBlogger2125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3839874353895292261.post-2885318219240784082010-07-31T12:25:29.110+08:002010-07-31T12:25:29.110+08:00Thank you for a wonderfully crafted response. I am...Thank you for a wonderfully crafted response. I am deeply moved by your observations.Faezah Ismailhttp://www.faezahismail.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3839874353895292261.post-75707908919528724042010-07-30T18:43:47.041+08:002010-07-30T18:43:47.041+08:00I think many women fear tying the knot for various...I think many women fear tying the knot for various reasons. First, the cold and harsh truth that men are at the other end of the spectrum compared to women when it comes to not just expressing love and affection in words but also actions. Many of our men don't hold their wives' hands because they think such romantic act should be done at home or in bed and it's never meant for publc consumption. The truth is, sadly, behind the closed door of home, it doesn't happen either so why waste your time and energy loving someone when you get next to nothing in return? My good friend spent the last 10 years living with her boyfriend and he doesn't like to be held! Whenever she rests her head on his shoulder, he would push it away. He was not like that in the honeymoon period of their relationship. The second reason, I feel, is the fear of being left with nothing. Marriage is a roller coaster. It's a bit like gambling, only worse because you not only lose your source of money if your husband leaves you for fuller, younger lips and smooth foreheads sans frown lines, but also possibly a roof over your head. I'm not generalizing because it would oversimplify this issue but haven't you read or heard about women who were divorced or God forbid, had their husbands went MIA? These victims usually are non-working women who failed to smell the trouble brewing. Again, this is just my two cents as my nickname reads. I'm not against marriage. I think marriage is a wonderful union of two hearts who are committed to be with each other forever. The intention should be purely and solely out of love, not money or using the spouse as a stepping stone or desperate that your age is catching up and you think your life is getting nowhere. Much thought should be put into deciding the right path to choose.justmytwocentsnoreply@blogger.com